I know bit's and pieces of Alex's past.
I know Ivan (Alex's half brother) was 15 when Alex was born and that Ivan joined the army when Alex was three. At age four on the 23rd of December Alex was picked up in a "street sweep" and his birth mother didn't come claim him until December 26th. She was told if this happened again, she would lose her parental rights. Apparently she wasn't living in the same place as he was? Where and who he was living with is a mystery.
When Alex was five he was picked up again on a street sweep, sent to an orphanage and 10 months later his birth mothers parental rights were terminated. This was in October of 2004. By this time he is six years old. He must have been in a "baby" orphange until November of 2005 when he entered the boarding school where we adopted him from. Here is the part of our adoption decree:
"Alex has stayed in the secondary boarding school #2, the Department for children with heavy speech disorder and no parents or relatives visited him. Nobody sent letters or called or took an interest in his state of health. No one participated in his maintenance or education except for his brother Ivan who did not show a desire to become his guardian"
From Alex I've learned (through pantomiming, some English and a lot of assumption on my part) that both his parents drank...a lot. That his birth mom was not nice and hurt him. That he has a scar on his finger from his birth father who woke him up in the night when he was "a little bebe" to hit him. That his birth father is large with red eyes. This birth father later died of sclerosis of the liver. His birth mother never married the birth father, in fact she put Ivan's father on Alex's birth certificate and that is why he and Ivan have the same last name.
I know as Alex learns English that he'll probably be able to tell us more about his past. Maybe not. Maybe he won't want to talk about it? Maybe it's too painful?
I just wanted to document it before I forget the details so that later when and if he does want to talk about it I won't be trying to search the cobwebs of my brain for the details...
I know Ivan (Alex's half brother) was 15 when Alex was born and that Ivan joined the army when Alex was three. At age four on the 23rd of December Alex was picked up in a "street sweep" and his birth mother didn't come claim him until December 26th. She was told if this happened again, she would lose her parental rights. Apparently she wasn't living in the same place as he was? Where and who he was living with is a mystery.
When Alex was five he was picked up again on a street sweep, sent to an orphanage and 10 months later his birth mothers parental rights were terminated. This was in October of 2004. By this time he is six years old. He must have been in a "baby" orphange until November of 2005 when he entered the boarding school where we adopted him from. Here is the part of our adoption decree:
"Alex has stayed in the secondary boarding school #2, the Department for children with heavy speech disorder and no parents or relatives visited him. Nobody sent letters or called or took an interest in his state of health. No one participated in his maintenance or education except for his brother Ivan who did not show a desire to become his guardian"
From Alex I've learned (through pantomiming, some English and a lot of assumption on my part) that both his parents drank...a lot. That his birth mom was not nice and hurt him. That he has a scar on his finger from his birth father who woke him up in the night when he was "a little bebe" to hit him. That his birth father is large with red eyes. This birth father later died of sclerosis of the liver. His birth mother never married the birth father, in fact she put Ivan's father on Alex's birth certificate and that is why he and Ivan have the same last name.
I know as Alex learns English that he'll probably be able to tell us more about his past. Maybe not. Maybe he won't want to talk about it? Maybe it's too painful?
I just wanted to document it before I forget the details so that later when and if he does want to talk about it I won't be trying to search the cobwebs of my brain for the details...
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